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    Margaret Bowater, MA, MNZAP,

    Author of Dreams and Visions - Language of the Spirit, is a dream therapist and researcher in Auckland.

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Margaret Bowater Talks With The Mercy Centre

23/8/2021

 
talkingworks · 2018 Margaret Bowater Interview with The Mercy Centre
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Why are we having so many disturbing dreams at this time?

21/8/2021

 
Don’t scare yourself about having unusual nightmarish dreams - this eruption of dreams is a recognised phenomenon during a time of high anxiety in the general population. 

We’re currently under siege by a lethal new Covid19 virus that is spreading rapidly around the world, so it’s quite natural to be afraid for your health, especially if your immunity is already compromised. When anxiety rises in a whole population - heightened by constant media reports - everyone is liable to recall past fears (even from stories and films) as well as present ones, resulting in a number of bizarre or fearful dreams. These are simply distorted reflections, however, not predictions of bad things to come.
 
What can you do to lessen their impact?
  • First, turn off all news an hour or more before bedtime, and distract yourself with peaceful music or an enjoyable book or a creative activity or regular spiritual practice, so that you calm your mind and body. Writing a journal about your day’s experience is helpful. Make sure you get a good 8 hours’ sleep if possible, to keep both mind and body healthy.
  • Second, if you wake up with a disturbing dream or nightmare, you can consciously think of a new ending for the dream-story, so that you escape the danger or fight it off or summon help to survive. Don’t let yourself go on feeling like a victim. Consciously train yourself to think creatively in your dreams as well as your life!
  • Third, even if you or a loved one is unlucky enough to catch the virus, remind yourself that our chances (in NZ) of a full recovery are very high.

Best wishes for happy dreaming. Margaret Bowater
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Post-Trauma Nightmares

21/8/2021

 
Abstract
Post-trauma dreams are sufficiently different from the usual symbolic nightmare to merit particular attention.  Two examples are given: one from Shakespeare, and another from the author’s experience.  Characteristic patterns are summarised, based on research by Hartmann, Siegel, and Stoddard et al, indicating the normal process by which such dreams evolve into nightmares.  Guidelines are suggested for dreamwork to assist clients’ recovery, including taking note of the “stuck points” signalled by repetitive elements in their dreams, and underlying issues in their philosophy of life.    

 
A literary example   
As an introductory example, consider Lady Macbeth’s sleep-walking dream from Act 5 of Shakespeare’s play.   Lady Macbeth is observed wringing her hands while she walks at night, trying to remove an invisible spot of blood: “Out, damned spot!”  She repeats fragments of the conversation she has had with her husband after the murder of Duncan, when she went back herself to take the swords of the sleeping guards and smear them with Duncan’s blood. Then she goes on, “Who would have thought the old man to have had so much blood in him? … What, will these hands ne’er be clean? … Here’s the smell of blood still.  All the perfumes of Arabia will not sweeten this little hand.” 

The deed is over, but Lady Macbeth’s sleep is disturbed by post-trauma dreams.  She has been deeply shocked to see “so much blood,” which her hands have touched.  But there is another level to her disturbance.  She has violated her conscience in the process.  Not only her hands, but also her soul is contaminated, and now she is terrified of damnation.

 
Experience and meaning
Her dream is typical of post-trauma dreams.  There are the brief literal fragments of experience, charged with emotion, and lacking a coherent story.  Because they are so loaded with emotions, they break through the early stages of sleep, not waiting for the natural periods of symbolic dreaming during the Rapid-Eye-Movement stages of the sleep cycle. (Hence Lady Macbeth’s sleep-walking, which could not take place during REM-sleep, when the body’s big muscles are “switched off” to prevent movement.) When the sufferer is unable to talk about her experience to discharge the emotions, the dreams tend to repeat night after night without much change – as we are told by Lady Macbeth’s personal servant.  They will continue until the underlying issue is resolved.  And the most disturbing elements of the issue can often be identified from the particular fragments highlighted by the dream, in this case the “damned spot” which she is unable to wash off her hand.  It is thus clear that experience alone does not create a post-trauma dream, but the meaning that it has for the dreamer. 

 
Research on war veterans’ dreams    
Dr Ernest Hartmann is a leading American researcher in the field of post-trauma dreaming, and a past president of the International Association for the Study of Dreams (1).  He drew his conclusions mainly from his work with veterans of the Vietnam War, suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder (2).  He found that the more disturbed men were the younger ones, who had not learned to dissociate their feelings from the horrors they lived through.  Typically, a young soldier who had witnessed his buddy being blown up, would dream not of his buddy’s death, but of his own, because of his close attachment, or because of a pattern which came to be called “survivor guilt.”  This could be expressed in the thoughts: I should have died, not him.  He didn’t deserve to die as much as I did. 
    
The most disturbed dreams, however, came from a sub-group of men who had suffered previous traumas in their lives, which were still unresolved.  The recent trauma would quickly collate with earlier experiences of terror, horror and helplessness, producing more complex post-trauma dreams and longer-lasting distress.  Hartmann researched the dreams of other trauma survivors, and found the same patterns.
    
Dr Deirdre Barrett, another past-president of the IASD, has published a very useful book, called “Trauma and Dreams”, gathering together a number of significant articles by researchers in the field (3).  Among these I have selected two to mention.

 
Research on firestorm survivors’ dreams    
Dr Alan Siegel led a team of psychologists who researched the dreams and other reactions of survivors of the great firestorm in 1991 in California, in which 25 people died and 5000 were rendered homeless (4).  42 volunteers and 18 controls were interviewed, kept dream journals for a fortnight, answered questionnaires, and attended three supportive workshops.  The findings were similar to Hartmann’s, and revealed further information: 

  1. People who had been evacuated in terror like the others, but returned to find their homes still standing, had more distressing nightmares than those whose homes were burned down – because (a) they suffered survivor guilt, and (b) they did not receive the same community support.  They even felt ashamed of their terror – yet they had been through the same initial trauma.
  2. People who had suffered previous traumatic losses, or were currently suffering multiple stresses, had post-trauma dreams around the theme of grief and death.
  3. Graphic memory dreams faded gradually during the year, and became mixed with other concerns.
  4. Survivors had a resurgence of nightmares and increasing dread as the anniversary approached.
  5. Recovery was indicated when the dreams began to show the dreamers as no longer helpless victims, but actively attempting to deal with the threat in the dream.

 
Research on child survivors’ dreams    
Stoddard, Chedekel and Shakun studied the dreams of children in an American paediatric hospital specialising in treatment for severe burns (5).  The authors found that most acutely burned children have nightmares, flashbacks or night terrors, and that these are made worse if the child has already suffered neglect, abuse, illness or previous traumatic events.  Over time the sleep disturbances evolve from acute flashbacks and deliria to nightmares and then to more adaptive dreams.  They agree with Piaget’s three stages in children’s understanding of dreams.  In stage 1, up to 6 years old, the child believes the dream takes place outside of him in the room, and is therefore liable to confuse dream scenes with reality.  (This may have direct relevance to the Christchurch creche case.)  Stage 2, from 7-8, is transitional; and in stage 3, from about 9, the child is clear that dreams are produced by thoughts inside his head. (I suspect that modern children make these distinctions younger, because of their experience with television.)
 

Normal process    
In the normal experience of dreams after trauma, the initial dreams are full of vivid literal sensory impressions and feelings, like re-living the actual experience, with little change.  Even at the start, however, they are not always literally accurate.  Emotion can cause simple distortions, such as the substitution of self for buddy, as observed by Hartmann.  If the survivor is not able to talk out his or her feelings to sympathetic people, perhaps because of associated guilt, the dream is likely to remain stuck, unchanging, and to recur whenever there are reminders or similar circumstances.  In the normal process, however, the survivor finds someone to talk to, and the dream begins to connect with other memories of survival, and gradually evolves into the more symbolic nightmares of REM sleep.  At this point, therapists can encourage the dreamer to create new endings for the dreams, in which they help themselves more actively.  I have described a process for doing this in my book, Dreams and Visions, Language of the Spirit (6). 

 
A simple example
Let me quote a simple experience of recovery from trauma.  Mavis (not her real name) was a retired nurse of 65, independent in mind and body, when she found herself in the middle of a terrifying home invasion.  She was staying in her daughter’s home.  As she walked along the passage to the loo in the middle of the night, she heard noises from another room, and suddenly a masked man in black with a gun burst through the door, demanding money, and ordered her into the room, where another masked man was standing over two girls who had been tied up.  Mavis intuitively decided to fake a heart attack, and gasped for breath.  She was ordered onto the floor under a blanket. Meanwhile the other man went through the house, while she lay there in fear for her daughter.  As it turned out, her daughter’s husband attacked the robber so successfully that both men fled, and the victims called the police.  They spent the rest of the night trying to come to terms with their experience. 

Mavis found herself too disturbed to sleep the next night, so she went home, where she was living by herself.  That was when she had the first dream of many, always the same:

I would be lying in my own bed at home, when two shadowy black figures would appear in the doorway.  I could hear horrible deep breathing, like someone short of breath after climbing the stairs.  I would try to move or shout but I couldn’t.  Then I’d wake up shouting, frightened, my heart pounding.  I would think it might have been real, so I’d slam the lights on, and hunt through the house, and then sit down and have a cup of tea before I’d go back to bed.
    
Mavis had no one to talk to, and continued to have difficulty getting to sleep.  After 6 weeks of this, she went to her doctor, and was referred for counselling.  After just one session, the dream started to change.  The figures became blue, and vaguer, but she would still wake up shouting.  The counsellor saw her only once a month.  After six months, the figures had become white and ghost-like, so being a resourceful woman, she reframed them as her guardian angels, and told them they could go now.  But she kept on dreaming the horrible heavy breathing at intervals for another year, before it stopped.  Perhaps her body, in simulating a heart attack, had expressed something that nearly happened for real.
     
Did you notice the non-literal element in the dream?  She dreamed she was in her own bed, but the actual experience took place in her daughter’s home.  This substitution identifies her own sense of violation in the experience.  Her own security has been invaded.

 
Therapy      
Therapists can facilitate the process of recovery from trauma by gently encouraging disclosure and expression of all the feelings involved, as the client feels ready to do so. This helps him or her to develop a more objective and coherent narrative of the event, and explore the disturbing existential questions, till he or she is able to take charge of life again without feeling like a victim. 

Dreams during counselling reflect the survivor’s progress, indicating where the unresolved issues lie, and quietly signalling steps towards empowerment.  Active dreamwork to encourage more resourcefulness can help the survivor rehearse symbolically ways of moving out of the victim role.  And sensitive reflection on the meaning of the experience can lead to a greater wisdom in facing other traumas that life may bring.

 
References
  1. International Association for the Study of Dreams, www.asdreams.org.  
  2. Hartmann, Ernest (1998/2001), Dreams and Nightmares – The New Theory on the Origin and Meaning of Dreams.  Perseus, N.Y.
  3. Barrett, Deirdre, ed.(1996), Trauma and Dreams. Harvard University Press, Cambridge, Mass.
  4. Siegel, Alan (1996), “Dreams of Firestorm Survivors,” article in Barrett (as above).
  5. Stoddard, F., Chedekel, D. and Shakun, L. (1996), “Dreams and Nightmares of Burned Children,” article in Barrett (as above).
  6. Bowater, Margaret (1997), Dreams and Visions – Language of the Spirit. Tandem Press, NZ.
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You and Your Dreams: some basic information

21/8/2021

 
1. Dreaming normally occupies about a quarter of each night’s sleep.
  • Therefore, on average, you spend one-twelfth of your life-time dreaming.
  • Everybody dreams every night, during 4-5 periods of Rapid Eye Movement sleep.
  • Your big muscles are inhibited from movement during REM periods, to prevent action.
  • You can improve your recall by recording your dream as soon as you wake up.
 
2. You dream mainly about your current emotional concerns.
  • Dream feelings are real; your body feels them; you may laugh, cry or scream.
  • They often express under-lying daytime feelings more intensely.
  • They often present different perspectives on your current problems.
 
3. The sense of identity, “I”, in your dreams is called the Dream Ego.
  • It is a reflected image of your Waking Ego, the centre of consciousness.
  • It usually shows how you feel in some aspect of your life at the time.
  • Other figures in the dream may signify people close to you, or aspects of yourself.
 
4. The dream-stories about You come from a different source than your Ego.
  • This source seems to be a creative observer in touch with all aspects of your life.
  • Carl Jung called it the Self, the central point of balance in the psyche.
  • He also called it “the archetype of the Divine;” your “spark of God within.”
  • Many dreams convey a strong sense of guidance, warning or affirmation.
 
5. Imagery in dreams comes mostly from your memory, creatively collated.
  • Interpretation therefore depends mainly on your own associations.
  • Some imagery comes more from your sub-conscious cultural background.
  • Most of your dreams are metaphor-stories, like parables or cartoons.
  • They often show you unconscious patterns in your own behaviour, eg running away.
 
6. Nightmares express strong feelings anticipating or following traumatic events
  • They indicate a need for healing, protection, comfort – or courage to act assertively.
  • Recurring dreams usually indicate unresolved grief, trauma or emotional conflict.
  • Persistent nightmares may indicate a need for psychotherapy, parallel to recurring pain.
  • The hallucinations of mental illness, fever, drugs or sleep-deprivation seem to be extreme forms of dreaming, due to chemical conditions in the brain.

7.  Archetypal visions come from the Collective Unconscious of the human race.
  • Nearly all the world’s major religions have begun with powerful visions.
  • The Bible is full of dreams and visions, from Genesis to Acts to Revelations.
  • Some dreams have major political impact, eg in India, Palestine, Afghanistan, etc.
 
8. Dreams have inspired artists, scientists, authors, musicians, inventors, films...
  • They are a major source of creative inspiration and problem-solving.
  • When you have a big problem on your mind, “sleep on it” for help.
 
 9. Around one third of us have telepathic, clairvoyant or precognitive dreams. 
  • Some dreams seem to carry detailed memories from past lives, or forthcoming events.
 
10. Around the time of death
  • many people report visions of the beyond, or seeing the spirit depart; and the dying in all cultures report glimpses of departed ones coming to greet them.

Your dreams can be a continual source of warning, inspiration and guidance all your life, if you train yourself to listen to your inner Spirit.
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